I don't disagree with you, Des, I think you know that.
I'm just the type to lay out the options and let them piece it together on their own. Of course it's up to her to decide if she wants to reject or accept any idea.
I don't think you can "un-gay" anyone, but from what I know, the Catholic Church doesn't think so either. But, I challenge you that, if a straight person can become a celibate due to religious convictions, then a gay person can become a celibate too. I think what would drive them to suicide would be this idea that they are only celibate because their "urges" are evil, which yes, I think is complete and utter bullshit. *sigh* There you made me say it. xD I think becoming celibate for no reason other than "God says gay sex is evil" is a terrible idea. However I think a gay person could become celibate for more "normal" reasons like they want to become a monk etc.