KirbyHead wrote:SuperBiasedMan wrote:I think mitchellbravo's advice applies if you're getting to know someone that you'd have no interest in other than dating.
The test is, if you like spending time with them even as friends (but maybe also like the idea of being more) then you could be friends with them a while first to get to know them better.
However if you're viewing them purely as a possible girlfriend and not interested in being friends, then going friends first is NOT the way to do thing.
Honestly, wanting someone as a steady boyfriend/girlfriend but not wanting to be actual friends is completely foreign to me. I think I just view dating/relationships in an entirely different light. But I didn't pursue relationships in high school (or now), so if approaching someone without the intentions of friendship works, then go for it, I guess.
I'm of the same mindset as you (I expect it to be a transition from friends to more, never been one for picking people up at a bar), but not everyone does think this way so it's worth mentioning the possible Nice Guy Syndrome.